Disarm your destructive voices

Disarm your destructive voices

Our Destructive Self has many voices.  The voices speak from fear, insecurity, jealousy, anxiety. Often, our Destructive Self never goes away. The only thing we can do is manage and disarm it.  Here's how. 

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This takes our happiness away

This takes our happiness away

Have you ever had the following experiences? You argue with yourself, stating “I am so mad at myself for doing this”.  Or maybe you behave in a way that disappoints you and looking back, you think “That is not who I really am”.  

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How to open up to someone’s point of view

How to open up to someone’s point of view

Some of the toughest times we can have are when we cannot see things from a different perspective or from someone else’s point of view. We remain at a standstill, stuck and unable to move forward.  The most frustrating and debilitating part is being aware that we are stuck and believing that we cannot and will not be able to move forward.  Well, the good news is that with (1) willingness and (2) committed work, getting unstuck and seeing someone else’s point of view is possible.  Here is how to do it. 

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Start your day better with this

Start your day better with this

Has it ever happened to you that the minute you wake up in the morning, your mind goes off racing with thoughts and worries? Or, maybe immediately after you wake up, you feel stuck, unable to move along with decisions and actions you have to make? If any of this sounds familiar to you, you must incorporate the following tool into your mornings as soon as you can.  It is one of the most powerful tools I have ever used to help me create the life that I want to live.  

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Happiness is easier than you think

Happiness is easier than you think

Did you know that research has found that happiness is: 50% Genetic, set by the genes you have inherited from your family; 10% Extrinsic, impacted by the amount of money, social status, or job we might have; and 40% Intrinsic, created by our internal state of mind driven by the intentional activities we do daily?  Yes, you just read this correctly.  And this is how you can impact 40% of your happiness with the activities you intentionally choose to take daily.  

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What to do when you have had a bad day

What to do when you have had a bad day

Sometimes, we have unexpected bad days that come out of nowhere.  Our computer crashes deleting hours of hard work.  A fire drill at work derails all of our plans.  We get into a fight with a family member.  Often, when these things happen, we fall into the trap of ruminating in our head for much more time than we should.  Here’s how to keep a bad day from becoming two or three bad days.  

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How to take control of your life, right now

How to take control of your life, right now

Raise your hand if at moments you can feel that you have too much to do, that the hours in the day aren’t enough, and that it all seems never ending.  The following advice from one of my favorite Stanford Business School professors changed my life.  It has always worked and has never failed.  

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How to know whose opinion matters

How to know whose opinion matters

In our day to day, we are constantly bombarded with the opinions of those around us.  Some of these opinions matter and others do not matter at all.  Yet, we often have a hard time discerning between the two.  In a segment for the daily show Al Dia, I shared an incredibly powerful tool that has helped me determine what opinions matter in my life.  I received this tool from a wise person about 5 years ago, and to this day I remember how life changing it was the first time I used it.  

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